Articles by Sue E. Fabian
All articles written by Sue E. Fabian will soon be posted on this website. Many of these articles on a variety of issues affecting the elderly appear on the Just Ask website.

Publications by Sue E. Fabian
Birthing DeathThis book (170 page paperback) captures the twenty-seven day saga of vigiling with a dying loved-one.  It weaves a triad of lessons: (1) offering hope and help through survival tips (called Toolbag Thoughts) as you walk the difficult path of being WITH a dying loved one, (2) providing advocacy and legal tips even when your loved-one is dying, and most importantly, (3) how to reframe a futile observer experience to actively help in birthing a soul into the world beyond as your loved-one's body dies away.
BIRTHING DEATH IS NOW AVAILABLE by emailing me @, or on Amazon.
Hospital and Hospice Chaplains and other professionals involved in this crucible of human experience share their thoughts on Sue's work:

  • Sue is especially insightful about managing a loved one's medical care that is fraught with inconsistencies, inefficiencies and sometimes, incompetence. Doesn't anybody "get it"? Sue does! Marge Wisniewski, Cleary University, Faculty Chair--Health Care Management, Ypsilanti MI.

  • As a police and hospital chaplain, I have never before encountered such a courageous journey into the realm of the living and dying...Rev. Renee Machiniak, Royal Oak MI.

  • BIRTHING DEATH opens the window wide to the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, legal and practical needs of the eye-opening read.Rev. Patricia A. Bancroft, M.Div., Chaplain St. James Mercy Hospital and McAuley Manor - Mercycare. Hornell NY.

  • Know how to BE with your dying loved one while maintaining your sanity. Pastor David Nichols, Sawyer MI.

  • Birthing Death is...a powerful true story with practical suggestions to help navigate the challenging landscape that is end-of-life.Birgit Langwisch, President, Hospice Prince Edward, Ontario Canada

Reaching Through the Fog of DementiaHow does one make meaningful contact with a loved one floating in the fog of dementia?  This book offers tips and tools to help penetrate this fog.  Offered in two parts, Part I tells the story of Sue’s work with a retired professor of English literature through her weekly visits over a three-year period, as she tirelessly experimented with ways to reach the professor.  Part II is more technical, outlining the tools Sue learned of from others or discovered herself.  A flow chart is also provided to help the reader understand how one processes information, where breakdowns occur in that processing, and what tools can be used to enhance communication depending on where the breakdown in processing occurs. Unpublished manuscript (2000) $12 (3-ring binder form).

Video Interviews

Interview of Sue Fabian on "Just Ask" show, talking about the profession of Geriatric Care Management (October 6, 2013)  

Interview of Sue Fabian on "Just Ask" show, talking about communication skills for interacting with those in the
fog of dementia (October 6, 2013)

Two-part interview of Sue Fabian by International Association of Holistic Law about her work as an Elder Law Attorney and underlying values.